Friday, July 22, 2005

Letting Go

Mothers, you've gotta love 'em. But the umbilical cord is often not severed at birth. There are different approaches to mothering, of course, spanning a range from hostile through indifferent into affectionate and on all the way to smothering. But when should a mother 'let go' or to be more precise, what constitutes 'letting go'?
Is it out of the house and your on your own at 16? 18? 21? 34!? And what aspect of control does a mother have? Guilt, of course. Hatred, jealousy, all the seven deadly sins and then some. And then there is the difference between a son and a daughter, or first, middle or last born. Sometimes the hurt and anger lasts a lifetime. Sometimes 'letting go' is really a rejection, and then it is sad, if you can't share a little unconditional love with your mom, and vice-versa, with whom can you?

By Professor Batty


Blogger Our Fanny said...

That's what siblings are for! Love you!

Blogger Comica said...

This conversation took place today between my mother and I:

Ack - "Have you ever had one of those days where you feel so tired you just want to lie in bed all day?"

Ack's Mother - "That isn't being tired, that's called depression."

I found this extremely funny. Out of the mouths of moms, huh?

Anonymous Anonymous said...

In certain cases when the "job" of being a Mom is done correctly, the letting go is a process that commences with the cutting of the cord. To teach a child to be a fully independant person, capable of self love and self worth is the whole point of the deal isn't it? The really great part is when they don't hate you any more and realize that all you have taught them really "is for their own good"!

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